I shared this statement on Tuesday evening… I found it profound, provocative, and compelled to speak to this, further. Almost immediately, comments on instagram came in, from simple agreement, to asking why this was “bad”. And it confirmed my suspicions… this is a hot topic.
Many of you dear hearts reading my words are sensitive, in myriad ways. Some are empathic, some highly intuitive, some simply emotionally delicate. Or some combination thereof. We all have our own frequencies that we send out like radio waves through the ethers. We resonate with others who hold similar frequencies, but still there is a spectrum, a bandwidth, so to speak. And just like when you tune the radio’s dial, you search for those songs that you vibe with, and you tune in. Sometimes it’s an old faithful station that you know you’ll love what’s coming through the speakers, sometimes a melody will catch your attention that’s undeniably different than your usual groove, but it’s working for you in that moment.
When people are hurting, consciously or not, they start sending out feelers. Seeking a balm for their wounds. Some may go a seemingly more destructive route, yet, ultimately, the intensity of destructive actions offers contrast that distracts them from the immediate pain at hand. That’s why sometimes when your heart is broken the saddest love songs are cathartic, and the next day you only want to listen to upbeat tunes to lift your spirits. We vacillate. We’re in constant movement. We oscillate… kind of like sound waves.
How does this relate to the above quote? Sometimes where we are at shines like a beacon to a hurting soul, and they’re magnetized because you have that groove they’re seeking, intentionally or not. Sometimes their aching, hurt vibe is stronger than our own, and we get sucked into their drama, or they siphon energy, because they’re so frantically hungry for something different. Usually without “permission”. And that can hurt. It can cause energetic depletion, in a physical, emotional, or psychological sense. Having someone leech energy is exhausting. Let that go.
In the outermost sense: Let go of those that drain you. Let go of those that are using you as a battery because they can’t jumpstart their own life. Let go of those that step on you to elevate themselves.
In a more inner sense: Let go of your limiting beliefs that there isn’t “enough”. Let go of the notion that your precious resources are finite. Let go of the notion that in order to be of support to another who is hurting, you must sacrifice yourself. Let go of the fear of being taken advantage of.
In the month of March my students work with the concept of stepping out of victimhood when tragedy falls, and into offerings. I ask them, from multiple angles, how can you make an OFFERING of yourself in this situation? How can you shift your perspective away from feeling victimized in that scenario, into an empowered state? What if nothing was actually taken from you?
So, yes. Sometimes people will come in your life because they’re attracted to your energy but they’ll misuse it for their own healing. Let that go. Because, ultimately? It’s the clinging to the notions of right or wrong that cause us the most harm, not the actual act. Embody that which you know is Truth: your limitlessness, and release the labels that cage you into anything less. And? Set up some solid boundaries for how you choose to have others engage with you, always.